Odaya Pinto on the pressure to get pregnant: "It embarrasses me a lot"
Social media star Odaya Pinto shares her struggle with intrusive questions regarding pregnancy. She discusses the monthly disappointments, weight rumors, and the lack of personal boundaries from those around her.
A year after getting married, social media star Odaya Pinto shares a candid monologue about the daily struggle with questions, comments, and prying from those around her regarding the sensitive topic of pregnancy. Pinto describes how social expectations quickly turn into pressure, accompanied by intrusive remarks and sometimes even unwanted physical contact.
"When they asked me a year ago, 'Odaya, what will be in a year?', I said 'I'll be a mom!' meaning full of pregnancy. But of course, that's why I got married," she says, presenting the gap between plans and reality.
Pinto describes the monthly disappointment that accompanies every failed attempt, alongside physical changes that immediately trigger rumors: "You get married, then you gain a little weight, and they tell you 'Oh, you gained weight, you must be pregnant'... but actually you're not pregnant, it's another month of your period, and maybe it's the start of a pregnancy? But no, bummer, it's a period."
Alongside the personal struggle, Pinto is forced to deal with the intervention of people in her environment, ranging from suggestions for treatments to unsolicited blessings and advice. "All sorts of questions start coming: 'Do you have problems? There's some rare professor, he lives in Sweden, he's worth every penny' or someone tells me: 'I'll put my hand on your stomach, my grandmother is the sister of the Admor, she will put her hand on your stomach and within a month you will get pregnant'". She adds that the situation becomes uncomfortable when people allow themselves to touch her: "It's not pleasant for me when I'm walking and they put a hand on my stomach, it embarrasses me. I am embarrassed, I am truly embarrassed."
Pinto clarifies that social expectation sometimes comes while ignoring the sensitivity of the topic and the lack of understanding that it is not a simple or quick decision. "It's not going to the 'Ariel' bakery, it's a child! Let God decide, He will bring it to me," she clarifies in response to the prying questions. "And no one has the right to enter your womb! Even if you've been married for a year, like me, and haven't gotten pregnant yet, everything is fine. When He decides, I will receive. And I know I'm going to be the most amazing mom, in His time."
Pinto concludes her words with a message to all those who allow themselves to interfere in the private lives of women: "Just as we don't get into your ass, don't get into my womb! Put your nose in a paper towel, not in my womb, because it's not pleasant for me. Just don't stick your nose into someone else's womb! You don't know what she's dealing with. Don't get into people's wombs, let go!"
